I was so surprised to see you at the store the other day! When I said you looked so good, you starting crying. I didn’t know. I’m sorry. I remember when you got sick so many years ago, after all this time I just assumed you were better. I didn’t know. I remember that we used to talk on the phone a lot and when we would bump into each other at the grocery store we would stop and gab for a few minutes, and I remember those baseball games when the kids were little, it was always so hot! I thought our lives had just changed because the kids grew up, I didn’t know what you were still going through. Like the old saying…”out of sight, out of mind”, I guess. Hadn’t seen you at church for a long time, but you told me it is hard to get ready and get there. I didn’t know. You told me you seldom drive or go anywhere. You told me that both boys moved all the way to Denver, I didn’t know that. I didn’t know you had to quit your job and you haven’t worked since 2001. I didn’t realize you have been ill since 2001, how could that be? After siting with you for a while I learned about your illness. I didn’t know there was no cure. I didn’t know how your illness has totally changed your life. I didn’t know your husband works three jobs, I guess that’s why I never see him! I didn’t know that most of your friends have stopped calling you, just like I did. I admit that I stopped inviting you to things at my house because you often declined or cancelled last minute. I didn’t know you were that sick. You look so good, like nothing in the world could be wrong. I will never say that again to you. Instead I will ask you if there is anything I can do for you. A ride to the doctor? Pick up your prescription? Take the dog to the groomer or for a walk? Come over and watch TV and help you with your laundry? I am so so sorry, I just didn’t know.